I thought I would share this great post by a fellow mum May Sams, discussing something I’ve been wondering about: when should I start talking to my children about my bipolar disorder? I hope you all find it thought provoking too!
This morning, getting ready to have my morning shower, I averted my eyes from the scales – and my reflection in the mirror. A few days earlier, I had been shocked to see the numbers on the scale had gone up… again.
After having lost a stack of weight in the past couple of years, I’ve been struggling to stop the kilos piling back on since having to increase my medications after an episode of depression last year.
Not only that, but one of the medication, Epilim, is having another awful side-effect – causing my hair to fall out… not a great feeling for a woman. Every time I run my hands through my hair, precious strands float away.
Like many people who have been on anti-psychotic or mood-stabilizing medications before, I know that weight gain is a well-documented side effect. But the hair thing came as a nasty surprise.
Asking my psychiatrist about it at our next appointment, she talked me through my (very few) alternative options. One of the drugs she suggested came with no risk of weight gain or hair loss. “Great!” I thought. Until she mentioned that if I noticed a rash appearing while I was taking it, I needed to get straight to a Doctor – as it could be fatal.
Unwilling to take the risk of dying – no matter how small the odds – I’ve decided to stay on the same medications for now. After all, they are keeping me well and after experiencing my first bout of depression, I have no desire to go back there. I’ll just up the exercise and start eating a little healthier (which isn’t a bad thing I guess!).
Still, as a woman, I must admit that it annoys me that I have to (literally) make the decision between my brain and my beauty.
Having noticed friends facing similar weight-gain issues, I’m betting that the pharmaceutical company that manages to create a mood-stabilizing or anti-psychotic drug without this self-esteem blowing side-effect will have many satisfied customers.
What are your expriences with medication and side-effects? What steps have you taken to counter them? We’d love to hear from you!
I’m one of those people who love to celebrate New Year’s Eve. This year, house-sitting my parent’s small farm, we decided to invite two other families with young kids around to bring in the New Year with us.
After enjoying a barbeque dinner and games of backyard cricket and footy, we tucked the kids into bed and sat around chatting, enjoying a glass of wine and waiting to see the fireworks when the clock struck midnight.
When one of the other women suggested we take turns to say our highlight for 2013, my husband Nathan and I glanced at each other. I don’t think either of us would say that 2013 was a great year for our family. With business troubles and my struggles with anxiety and depression, this year has been a tough one for both of us.
Yet, sitting there, listening to others talk about their highlights (new babies, houses sold and bought etc.) I recalled something C.S Lewis once said: ‘Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.’
This quote stuck in my mind because it reminded me of our four-year-old daughter, who loves the monkey bars but is too scared to let go with one hand to reach for the next bar. Instead, she hangs there until, eventually, she drops.
With this in mind, my New Years resolution for 2014 is to let go of the past and start moving forward again.
Having a whole new year ahead of me feels like opening a brand new journal… crisp, new pages ready to be written upon. And so, instead of dwelling on the past (see my post Unforgiveness: Don’t let it corrode you) I am going to look forward to the many wonderful things awaiting me this year.
Sure, our life is bound to have ups and downs and be far from perfect. But perfect would be boring right?
Have you made a New Year’s resolution? I would love to hear it!
Tonight, browsing the internet, I came across a wonderful blog, with incredible images drawn by someone with bipolar disorder.
Somehow, with a simple image or two and very few words, the blog’s author managed to conjure up some of the emotions that many of us go through.
And so, in the spirit of her blog – I’m going to say no more and simply show you some of her pictures. If you’d like to see more, I’d encourage you to take the time to visit her blog.
Thank you to http://bipolarcodex.wordpress.com/ for sharing these photos with us.
I guarantee I’m not the only woman out there who has looked in the mirror at my post-partum body and despaired. Gone is the smooth firm tummy – replaced with a wobbly stomach streaked with stretch-marks or a C-section scar.
I naively thought that the 21 kilograms I packed on while blissfully pregnant with my first son would magically ‘melt away’ after his birth. I vaguely remembered reading somewhere that breastfeeding was equivalent to running a marathon everyday.
Unfortunately, after becoming acutely unwell after my son’s birth, I was admitted to a psychiatric hospital and put onto heavy doses of anti-psychotics and mood-stabilisers.
When I finally came home from hospital six weeks later, I curiously stepped on the scales and was devastated to find myself only 2 kilos lighter than when I was 9 months pregnant. And my son had weighed 3.7 kilos!
Six years and two more babies later, I finally lost the last of all that ‘baby weight’ (although I’m not sure I can blame it on the baby….)
As a woman with bipolar disorder, losing weight has never been easy for me. Staying well has always been my priority, so I’ve had to put up with the weight gain which is a side effect of the anti-psychotic and mood stabilizing medications I take.
To successfully lose 21 kilograms, while remaining on my medication, took me six years of healthy eating and exercise.
After what my body and mind had been through, I was determined not to go on the latest ‘milkshake’ diet and starve it of nutrients – but to nourish it with fresh, nutritious food.
With three preschoolers around, it became even more important to me that they see their mum exercising and eating healthily. I didn’t have the option of going to a gym during the day, but discovered I loved exercising with the kids outdoors.
An exercise class for mums got me running for the first time since high school – with my two and four year olds in the pram acting as my coaches, urging me to ‘keep running mummy – don’t stop!’
I still struggle with my eating habits (especially when I’m around chips…), but I’ve learnt that it is possible to be on medication and lose weight….slowly, but surely.
Has motherhood or medication caused you to struggle with your weight? I’d love to hear your comments or stories.
Many things about bipolar disorder seem out of our control. We can’t dictate when depression will hit us out of the blue, or when we’ll be left picking up the pieces in the aftermath of a manic episode.
Still, there are some things that we can control. And for those of us who are mums (or mums-to-be), with little ones depending on us, this is music to our ears.
Nearly six years ago, I was pregnant with my second child and terrified that things would go pear-shaped, like they did after my first son’s birth.
Trying to wrestle back some sense of control, I sat at the computer and wrote a Bipolar Action Plan.
This focused on manic episodes (the hallmark of my condition) and outlined a number of things – such as signs that I was becoming unwell, usual medications, contact details for my GP, psychiatrist and psychologist, and a list of the people I wanted to act as my ‘support crew’ during any future episode.
As a mum, the thought that I may not be in a state to care for, or see, my young children was terrifying. Writing down instructions for their care, as well as that of our dog and house, was somehow soothing to my anxious brain.
For those who don’t already have a Bipolar Action Plan, I would highly recommend putting one together. If you’re not sure where to start, why not adapt this sample one – based on the plan I put together: Bipolar Action Plan (sample).
Was the Bipolar Action Plan useful? I’d love to hear your feedback or suggested improvements!